So yesterday we went to church, and the message was based on Hebrews 4:15 “Jesus, our high priest, is able to understand our weaknesses. When Jesus lived on earth, he was tempted in every way. He was tempted in the same ways we are tempted, but he never sinned.” Long story short, when Jesus was born to Mary and Joseph, He became one of us. Plain and simple. He ate and slept, he walked and got tired, just like we do, but he didn’t sin. Alright. So this phrase said by a family member went through my mind: “why me dear God, why me?!”

You know, when I heard this family member stating this “why me dear God, why me?!” question years ago, my first thought was: “because of what you ate!  because of your choices! that’s why!” We all make decisions, we all choose. See Jesus was tempted, he was hungry, he was thirsty, he could’ve taken the easy way out, but he chose to do the right thing. He didn’t back up when he saw that he was going to be apprehended, he didn’t ran away, he didn’t whined and cried when he was carrying the cross while wearing a crown with thorns. He did what he had to do. He made a choice.

So if Jesus was one of us, then we’re just like him. So if you’re going tough times, you’re not the only one suffering, because guess what, Jesus suffered too. It’s not God’s intention to make you suffer or to make you sick or to take your loved ones away from you or for you to lose your house or your car. However, whatever is happening in your life, the sorrow and grief you’re going through are something God will use as and for your testimony. Jesus lived among us and He left an amazing testimony no matter his circumstances. Let me illustrate.

So I told you I got married, took me 6 years to get pregnant, 2 in vitros later plus a 2-week NICU stay, God gave me a baby boy. Two years later my husband died and left me with a 2 year old toddler, 2 dogs, $200 in the bank and a $2000 mortgage and no job. My car was totaled by an illegal drunk driver, I spent months in rehab while still working full time. Then a piece of ladder that flew off a truck broke my whole windshield at 6:00 am while going to drop off my kid at daycare. Then a hail storm destroyed my car on all 4 sides and the house I was about to put on the market, my new house got flooded, my mini fridge burned upstairs. On a particular day, a patient died at work, then after getting my kid and going home, the garage door broke in half. During a rainstorm, the tree in the backyard broke in half and one half landed on the fence pushing it down. Now let me make my case.

Not once have I asked God why me. Not once. I have chosen to ask God: guide me to what You want me to do and say with everything that has happened. What you go through, is just part of your testimony. What you go through is just to showcase God’s mercy and power. God brings you to it, and God takes you through it. What I went through above, and there’s more but I guess I’ve made my point, should have me popping pills, or drinking, or smoking, or doing drugs, or have me all depressed or with anxiety, or curled up on a corner whining why me? why me???? But that’s not the case.

Do you know what God wants? For you to get on your knees and ask God to keep you safe. God wants you to look at Him when you’re drowning and ask Him to save you. Peter was drowning and Jesus told him to go to Him. God wants us to have faith in Him, to trust that He will deliver us. If you drown it’s because you didn’t trust God enough. If you fall, it’s because you were more worried about your feelings and you were not looking at God and you tripped on your own feelings. So no, I don’t drink, and I don’t smoke and I don’t do any of those things, and I don’t whine, and I don’t cry and throw tantrums, and certainly don’t ask ‘why me dear God? why me?!’

So quit your whining, whatever you’re going through, God has the answer, God wants you to turn to Him and ask for His help, pray to Him, get closer to Him. If you’re lost in the desert, ask God to show you the way. If you’re in the middle of the storm, ask God to give you shelter. If you’ve lost someone you love, we all come with an expiration date, we just don’t know when that day is, but regardless, ask God to bring peace to your heart and mind. Turn to God, that’s the choice you’ve got to make. That’s right, you’re not the only one. Jesus had a tough time too. I had a tough time. Jesus didn’t question God’s wisdom. I’m too much of a chicken to even consider that maybe God might’ve had a bad day and whatever happened just slipped his attention and now I’m going through whatever mess. God wants your attention, He wants you asking for His help and guidance. So it’s your choice which way you’ll react, what you’ll do about it, and how you’ll deal with what you have.

Come to God, and ask for His help.

Thanks!